More often than not, the anger of another will give rise to the anger within yourself. Unconsciousness spreads like a disease, airborne, toxic; where it exists it latches on to whoever it can. This is why we must guard ourselves with the light of presence. We cannot control others, their choices, their thoughts or their egos. What we can control is our relationship to these occurances by remaining conscious.
If an explorer were to visit a volcanic region knowing he would be close to lava and bursts of heat at unimaginable degrees, we can all agree it would be insane for them to embark on this trip wearing sandals, shorts and a singlet. Responsibly, they would wear heat resistent clothing, safety glasses and thick boots appropriate for such terrain. In life, we my enter situations where we know we will encounter unconsciousness, or we may stumble upon it unexpectedly. This unpredictability means we should always practice presence, or else risk entering a volcanic region in our swim wear.
Perhaps you have a family member or a friend who you find shifts your energy towards the negative. They may pull you into gossip, or dissaproval of others which is their ego building for them a false sense of superiority. Without realising it, your ego and pain body engages with theirs. It may take days after engaging with this person, that you realise your energy has shifted to mirror theirs.
This doesnt have to occur with a person close to you. It could be a complete stranger who looks at you the wrong way or makes a rude comment towards you. Instantly, you react or feel your mood change because of their unconscious attack.
This is why we must remain present, to put an end to the contagion of pain. From our waking moments we must wear our armour, to deflect the epidemic from entering ourselves.
We must forgive, instantly. Let forgiveness wash over you whenever you are wronged. We must accept, for whatever has happened cannot be taken back. We must surrender, completely, and acknowledge what we can’t control, but know we can control our consciousness. And lastly, we must invite the other to step into a conscious space. They may not follow, they may not even reccognise the invitation. But just as they impose on your sacred space, we must offer to them a place more peaceful than they currently know.
They may or may not take your offer, but regardless, you have done all you can to reduce the toxic spiritual energy moving towards you, within them, and into the world.
We are all the same. We can all be easily fooled by the ego, yet we all have the potential to surrender to the present. And for that, we should be eternally grateful. Namaste.